Recognize any of the platitudes on this list? Here's why you should stop using them--now.
Inc.comOWNERS' MANUAL | Jeff Haden
Aug 1, 2012
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Whipping out a platitude isn't just annoying. Using some platitudes also shows you're lazy--and not just in words but in actions:
"Work smarter, not harder."
… One: You imply I'm stupid. Two: You imply whatever I'm doing should take a lot less time and effort than it does. And three: After you say it, I kinda hate you.
If you know I could be more efficient, tell me how. If you know there's a better way, show me how. If you think there's a better way but don't know what it is, say so. Admit you don't have the answer. Then ask me to help you figure it out….
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| individual -v- group (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee) |
Sure there is. There are as many I's as team members. Those individuals, the more "individual" the better, serve to make the team stronger. …
If you want a team to work hard and achieve more, make sure each person feels she can not only achieve the team's goal but also one of her own goals. Spend time figuring out how each individual on the team can do both, instead of taking the lazy way out by simply repressing individuality in the pursuit of the collective.
"It just wasn't meant to be."
Fate had nothing to do with it. Something went wrong. Figure out what went wrong and learn from it….
"That's probably not what you want to hear."
…[When] you say that something isn't what I want to hear, you shift the issue over to my side of the table. Somehow it's become my problem.
Don't shift. Explain why you made a decision. Explain the logic. Explain your reasoning. …
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| Perceptions (Photo credit: DanRhett) |
… But if other people perceive a reality differently than you, work to change that perception. Make reality the reality.
Besides, perceptions are fleeting and constantly changing. Reality lasts forever, or at least until a new reality comes along to replace it.
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| English: Classical ideal feedback model. The feedback is negative if B (Photo credit: Wikipedia) |
… Don't be passive if you truly want feedback. Don't just make it easy for people to provide. Go get it. Be active.
Ask.
People who really want feedback take responsibility for getting that feedback--they don't wait to receive it.
"Do it now and apologize later."
You're not a bold, daring risk taker; you're lazy and self-indulgent. Good ideas are rarely stifled. People like better; if they don't like your idea, the problem usually isn't them: It's you.
Don't take the easy way out. Describe what you want to do. Prove it makes sense. Get people behind you.
Then whatever you do has a much better chance of succeeding.
"Failure is not an option."
… Failure is always a possibility. Just because you say it isn't doesn't make it so.
Don't reach for a platitude. Justify your decision. Answer the hard questions
If you can't, maybe your decision isn't so wise after all.
"Let's not reinvent the wheel."
Because hey, your wheel might turn out to be a better wheel, which means my wheel wasn't so great.
And we can't have that.
"It is what it is."
… "It is what it is" really means, "I'm too lazy to try to make it different, so for gosh sakes stop talking about it."
"It is what it is" is only true if you take the easy way out by letting "it" remain "it."
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Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry. Everything else he picks up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest leaders he knows in business. @jeff_haden
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